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He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not…She Loves Me, She Loves Me Not

Loving you is like can I stop..." — Anonymous.  

This is a quote that I believe nearly everyone in the world longs

to recite to someone that they truly love.  And I understand because

practically everyone has this desire.  After all, we were all made to

love. Many people are looking for love, while others are dating to

determine if that person will be their true love, and countless others

have made marriage vows expressing their love.


However, each category mentioned above is full of people doubting

someone’s love for various reasons.  And as a result, many times the

old French game, “He loves me, He loves me not…She loves me, she

loves me not,” comes into play within their minds.  Unfortunately,

when this happens, many people begin to play emotional and mental

games. Generally, these games are very hurtful, and in time, cause many relationships to be full of turmoil, or terminated.


Instead of playing games, decide to go to love Himself, and to His word for your answers.  First John 4:16(b), says, “…God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.”  God is LOVE, and everything that He does stems from who He is.


Allow His word to be your sounding board, and, or, the measuring stick to determine real love.  No matter which category you fit within the Bible has something to say about it.  Therefore, I encourage you to go to the word of God regarding the doubts that plague your mind.  In doing so, I believe that you will find the answers that you need and that you will receive the instructions needed to rebuild your relationship.


In addition, should you currently be in a relationship, or looking for love, trust that God has someone for you.  Always remember that God desires to give you your hearts desires as they line up with His word. Psalms 37:4 (KJV), says it like this, “Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.”  Decide to trust God, and His timing, for they are both perfect.


Furthermore, if you are married allow the verses of scripture in First Corinthians 13:4-8 (AMP), to guide your thoughts and behaviors.  As you put these scriptures into daily practice they will begin to speak to your heart, and to aid you in restoring your love for your spouse, as well as, build your confidence in your marriage union.  Decide to love your spouse as God loves you. Unconditionally! For God desires to set your heart ablaze with a renewed love for your spouse!


Lastly, know that you are important to God and that He loves you with an everlasting love.  I encourage everyone dealing with issues of the heart to seek pastoral guidance.



Father in the Name of Jesus, I trust you with my life.  I ask you to help me to grow and to position myself to be ready for the godly relationship that I desire.  Also, I ask you to teach me to love like you, and to help me to walk in love in my relationship. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

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